The spring sunshine is coaxing the trees to unfurl their tightly bound buds, and I’ve been waiting for weeks to see every bush, vine and tree green again. The lilacs are in bloom, and I wish I had a field of them, because the season doesn’t last very long where I now reside. When I had a life up North, a long row of lilac bushes higher than I could possibly reach grew all along the back yard, and the season lasts so much longer there.
I try to immerse myself in learning to like my life wherever I am, and I learned how to garden when we moved into a small bungalow in Wisconsin. The previous owner had a lush perennial garden on the small lot, and I studied how to care for the clematis, dianthus, bachelor buttons, roses, hollyhocks, trumpet vine and so many more flowers. My favorite look is an English garden, and in that climate most of us had pretty gardens resembling that.
When I moved to a house surrounded by woods on three sides I was enchanted with the wildlife, minus the raccoons, who learned in one day how to take apart my bird feeders. Foxes, deer, squirrels, coyotes, at least three different kinds of owls, snakes (I know!), turtles, bullfrogs, and too many birds to count live on our lot. It’s theirs first, so I try to work around them. My attempts at starting and English garden meant the deer enjoyed all the flowers I had planted, and I changed tactics.
How does this have to do with finding happiness and beauty wherever we are? By working with our situations, even if they’re vexing. It’s a good place to start.
After five years of gardening I hit on my answer. I grow fragrant flowers that repel the deer. Lavender and rosemary top the list. And I went to the market yesterday and bought almost all of they basil. The scent of basil mingled with lavender made my summer last year.
Even if you kill every plant you’ve owned, you can still find contentment in trying yet again to have a plant growing inside (or out). We need nature in our lives. When I started bringing in all sorts of plants, my husband was enthusiastic, but he says it’s a bit much now. I disagree. Every ivy vine climbing an inside wall makes me yearn for more nature in my home. You can start with something as easy as ivy. Try it.
If you have even a small patch of earth, plant seeds or plants and maybe a tomato plant. Being out in the freshness, letting the earth touch your bare feet is a way of finding our roots.
Studies claim we need to be outside more. Go look at a sunset. Wait one hour and look west to see this comet the news is so excited about. Open your windows and let the birds wake you up. Then you can close the windows and go back to sleep, because I’m not ready to face the day at 6:00 in the morning. Take your coffee or energy drink out by your plants or flowers and enjoy those moments.
You can be happy if you don’t have plants, don’t go outside and don’t have any way to walk barefoot across the grass. But why not give this a try?
I am mesmerized by the life of Tasha Tudor, the illustrator and author of many children’s books, like Pumpkin Moonshine. She liked the mid 1800s, so she lived in a new old house where she cooked over the fire, grew just about anything that would grow in Vermont, and she walked around in long dresses and bare feet with her corgis, geese, ducks and her varied menagerie of other animals.
Look up Tasha some time. Her convictions and her gardens were amazing. Maybe watching Martha Stewart or following someone into cottage core is more your style. Fine! Bake bread. Knit. Hang your sheets outside to dry. Sew pillows and burn candles made from scratch.
I promised myself I would write more often if I kept these short, so it’s time to for me to go and plan our trip to Utah. Which means it’s time for me to wrap up a bundle of happiness for you. Find something that connects you with the old ways of slowing down. Get off this phone, that computer and find a real book to hold in your hands. Light a small candle and breathe it in. Calm yourself. Herbal tea? One glass of wine? Bread with butter?
Finding our connection to the earth brings satisfaction. When you witness a stunning sunset, watch a bird building a nest or see the ocean waves beating against the cliffs, isn’t it enchanting? I hope you can find a way to walk on a bike path or drink in a sunrise this week. I hope you do something organic, something rustic and don’t rush.
I hope you find all the happiness your soul can hold.
Until next time,
Deanna